NEW DOG VS. OLD DOG

What happens when fear strangles the relationship? I'm with Mr. Mysterious and everything is going so well. But at the same exact time, it is going so poorly. He is wonderful at creating the solidity of the relationship. For instance, the puppy and bringing his daughter over during the week. So I feel "so secure". However, I started to realize that I have been so attached to him. So dependent on him, the complete opposite of what I usually find myself doing. Or what I hate other woman for doing. I felt the need for some space, some freedom to deal with the mess I'm in all by myself. What am I afraid of? Obviously Mr. Mysterious leaving. His distance, although justified, is not only him putting up walls it is also me moving them to a more comfortable distance from me.  I can't be this person, who is so dependent on a man. So needy and wanting. 

Because of the need to have a car ride early in the morning, and the lack of positivity in my life, I needed something. Desperately. When Mr. Mysterious didn't pull through (Due to bro-pro support necessity) I had limited opportunities left. 

I happen to be in a need  of someone. It happened to end up being the last guy that stole my heart, Mr. Man. I played my cards, and had to put myself out there to allow him to respond. Not emotionally of course, however, I had to tell him what I had done. Keep in mind, I didn't need him, just a ride, and therefore, I had a need.  

Now, and experiment is in progress. Does the new guy care that the old guy is coming to the rescue? Nope, hopefully just because he is secure in his idea of our relationship. In reality, the experiment is still pending. 

TERMS OF AGREEMENT

They say that getting a dog, or any other pet, with a man is a test to the relationship's possibility of children. If your man already has a child, what does that say about your relationship? You have a pet, but the mother of the child has the child with him, so technically it is not a test run. He's already been there. With someone else. Not the point. 

The point is, however, that the dog is supposed to be a way into something greater. What is greater if everything that a girl wants he has already had with someone else? Except marriage of course (but they definitely talked about it, I'm sure). So you have the dog, the current man (post traumatic stress), the company and everything, but do you encompass his hopes and dreams. Or are you just an escape from the reality of the fantasy? I mean really how is one ever to feel secure in a relationship, that he had already with someone else? It must be the same questions the second wife will ask about the first. But what's the answer?

The truth behind it is if you wishing to be the one, then it is all on his terms. You may not even know what the terms are. You are currently playing in the dark.